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It's time to discuss something that I discovered completely on accident. For quite some time now, I've just been working on developing myself as a person. And one of those personal goals I had, was just to be nice to everyone and fully develop my communication skills. So, I've just been talking to everyone that I've come across, and I noticed three critical changes in my character.
What are those three changes? Shut up and just listen to people, empathize with and relate to them, and just get to know who they are with no emphasis on an end result. Just a really nice guy that people enjoy talking to. On several of those occasions, people have thanked me for just talking to them.
So what happened? I had developed my communication skills far beyond that of the average person, and as a side effect, that carried over into how I talk to women when I'm out. And let me tell you, I have NEVER had it this easy with women.
Women are constantly talking to me, and not only do I have two of the exact types of women I like, but just last night, I acquired a third and I didn't even have to do any work to get her. Her married friend liked me so much that she actually hooked us up. And let me re-emphasize that these are the EXACT types of women I like and nothing less. How many guys can say that?
I stopped being an ass, stopped focusing on an end result, and just stopped focusing on the pick-up as a whole. Then I noticed something. Subconsciously I started to realize what value I had to offer, and I haven't even approached anything less than a 10 lately. Not to say that I won't talk to a girl that's less than my idea of a 10, just saying that I won't go out of my way to do it.
And I've noticed guys looking at me and asking me what the hell I'm doing with these women, and they look for me to say some kind of special routine, technique, or whatever, but the only thing I changed, was my CHARACTER. In essence, I focused on the removal of the self during my interactions not just with women, but people as a whole.
I believe that 99% of men out there approach women with their own goals in mind, and they don't stop and ask "What might this girl want? What would she want to talk about?". And you can see some guys going through a checklist of routines, and SOMETIMES they actually get the girl, but sooner or later, after the alcohol wears off, these women see through the routines and see these guys characters for what they really are.
And that's why I'm such a strong supporter of character over routines. Let me say this once again, routines and techniques are good for bridging transitions and whatnot, but in the end, your character is what's going to carry you all the way through to the end. Routines and techniques can't replace your personality and who you are as a person. And that's what women are looking at.
I've come to realize that you don't have to have an entire routine set, a ton of money, great looks, etc. to pick up the most beautiful women around. All you need to be are at acceptable baseline levels of the above. You can be a decent looking guy, have an OK income, and not have a single routine in the book, as long as you're an unselfish confident NICE GUY THAT ISN'T A PUSHOVER.
It's kind of like driving a manual car where you have to let go and push the clutch just right in order to get the car rolling smoothly. Any more or any less, and you either stall the engine or burn out your clutch. In other words, too much of either extreme, and you lose the girl. It's all about finding that smooth friction point, and you reach that point by being nice, but keeping women in line when they try to take you for a pushover. Everything else is simple and smooth once you figure it out.
My opening "line" isn't a routine, story, or something hardcore and socially inappropriate like "I want to fuck you". I pretty much just go up to girls and say something along the lines of "Hey I just wanted to come over here and talk to you" or "I think that you're attractive. My name is Omari, and you are?'.
And do you know what happens? Women see that I'm a decently physically attractive guy, and just about every single girl smiles and talks to me with absolutely no bullshit type shit tests. It's almost as if you don't start playing games with them, they won't play games with you. This goes back to why you shouldn't focus on routines, because women have routines of their own to get rid of you if you start using routine type talk when you approach them.
I know that you guys are looking for me to say something spiritual or enlightening, and it's not going to happen. This is the real world, and I'm using something that the most likable people in the world use, and that is the removal of the self in conversation. Nothing spectacular, just pure unselfishness when I talk to women. Remember, those that give unselfishly, are the ones who are rewarded.